Archive for Men’s Centres

Responding to Domestic Violence vs. Preventing it

Responding to Domestic Violence vs. Preventing itResponding to Domestic Violence is not working.  It is costing our society millions upon millions of dollars and yet I am still observing the same types of policies being put forward by local government.  Here is a recent scenario that is happening in BC where the government is responding to a “potentially preventable” scenario IF the man received appropriate support.

The West Coast Men’s Support Society is all about prevention.  We offer programs to support men in living healthier lives in all ways; and by doing so, supporting their families, friends, and the community.

We believe that if we can provide boys and men with tools that would invite them down a different path than the “tough guy” approach, that so many of them have been taught, we would offer them a way out of violence and a way into compassion.

We believe in the path of the Mature Masculine/New Macho – a man who takes responsibility for his actions, is held accountable, and lives a life of integrity.

We would like to be able to work with government to develop new approaches to preventing domestic violence across the province through education of men vs. the blaming of men.

The West Coast Men’s Society knows that there is another way – a more cost effective and humane way to support men in BC and beyond.  We hope that doors will open and people in positions of power will pay attention.  Thanks for your time!  Please contact us for more information on our programs.

Spiritual and emotional maturity – the Sibling Society revisited

Spiritual and emotional maturity - he Sibling Society revisitedHow many of you are familiar with the concept of The Sibling Society?  I have hyper linked the term with a page about Robert Bly’s book.  The essence of Bly’s book is around our society being run by adolescent men – men who have literally not emotionally grown up.  These are men who have not taken the path of spiritual and emotional maturity; but rather one that focuses on the bottom line in spite of everything else.

As British Columbia (BC)’s West Coast Men’s Support Society (WCMSS)- a place for men to come for support around their emotional health, we strongly support men in getting in touch with their mature masculinity.  We are hopeful that men will become more aware of their emotional needs, losses, and where their emotional work lies.

We are also affiliated with British Columbia (BC)’s Mankind Project – an organization dedicated to changing the world  one man at a time.  The Mankind Project hopes to accomplish this by inviting men to gather together, and to witness one another going deeper and revealing their shadows – the part of ourselves that we hide, repress, and deny.  It is a part of ourselves that typically comes out sideways because we are not connected with it.  It quite often takes others to act as our mirror to bring up our shadowy parts.  We then project these dark aspects of ourselves onto these people/mirrors.  This is what we refer to as our “work” – our emotional work – we all have it.

The biggest challenge that we at The WCMSS find men have is simply ASKING FOR HELP.  We find that men will look at themselves as failures if they ASK FOR HELP; and yet, if they do not, then they will be perpetually lost in their emotional unavailable state, and will be disconnected from everyone around them in a REAL way.

Therefore, in order for men to truly become mature masculine beings, it is crucial that they step out of their comfort zone and ASK FOR HELP.  This will allow them to begin the journey along the path of spiritual and emotional maturity.

We invite you to contact the WCMSS for more information on our programs and resources.  Thank you for your time and interest.

Interview on People First Radio!

Interview on People First Radio!West Coast Men’s Support Society if very pleased to announce that we had a successful interview on People First Radio this past Thursday.

The interview was largely based around the new Men’s Centre that will be opening at Simon Fraser University, and the response that it has received to date from the community.

I discussed the need for society to work towards an equilibrium between the support and understanding of women’s and men’s emotions.

I discussed the need for an understanding of the sacred masculine and how important this is.

I wanted to clarify that the need for a safe place for men to go to to seek help in no way minimizes the need for women’s centres – places for women to go for support.  I am simply emphasizing that both genders require support – typically from their own gender in order to be safe and healthy.

I spoke about the different programs that the West Coast Men’s Society is offering to support men in BC.

I confirmed that we support men’s work across British Columbia – including: up and down Vancouver Island and the Okanagan.  We are working to build connections in the Lower Mainland, the Kootenays, and in the northern regions of BC.  We want to help men wherever they reside.

It is truly our hope that the new Men’s Centre at Simon Fraser will mark the beginning of a more balanced society – where both women’s and men’s emotional lives are being supported.

Please feel free to contact us for more information on our programs.

Thanks for your time!