Welcome to the West Coast Men’s Support Society Blog!

Welcome to our new blog!  This blog will incorporate the input and insights of a number of men and women across British Columbia and beyond.  We hope to have at least two new blog postings per week that will stimulate topical discussions.  The discussions will include conversations around our programs:  Dads Make a Difference, Men’s Circles, Fire & Bones, Senior Men’s Circles, Men’s Grief, Restorative Justice, & Respect & Compassion.

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Joy & Peace,

Grant Waldman
Executive Director

2 comments

  1. Irfan says:

    My problem with Greg’s agmruent is that it seems to be reducing parenting down to the physical labor of feeding, clothing, and cleaning. Presumably, as long as sufficient labor capability exists in the house, the problem is solved. By that mesure, children raised entirely by robots should be as well-adjusted as any others. I’m finding that a bit far-fetched.I would argue that single motherhood and single fatherhood are not compaable under the present circumstances, for a variety of reasons. Of course, the largest one is that in our current culture, there is no social stigma associated with not having a father or not knowing who one’s father is. Compare that to the case for adopted children, who do not know who either of their biological parents are. And there is no stigma associated with a household which has no father in it. I am a big believer that, in order to be well-adjusted in regards to how they relate to the oppsite sex, children need to have role models of both sexes. Now, there are different ways of accomplishing that goal, but that’s beside the point I want to make. I don’t have the stats in front of me night now, but a significant number of single mothers were themselves raised in single-mother households. Being that the welfare state has been in place for about 60 years now, this can extend back through three or four generations. A boy may find himself being raised in a family that is otherwise single-sex. This is very unlikely to happen in a father-only household. I would guess that the number of single-parent fathers who were themselves raised in a motherless household is minscule, probably not enough to study.Futher, the child of a single father still has plenty of exposure to female role models. They have female relatives. Some fathers hire caretakers, who are nearly all female. School teachers are mostly female. Compare this with the opposite situation. It’s quite possible that a child in a single-mother household will never meet an adult male realtive, due to the multi-generational chain of single mothering. In public schools, the child is unlikely to have a male teacher. Welfare and child-protective employees are mostly women too. It’s entirely possible that the child’s only “male role models” will be in the form of street gangs.So no, I don’t think that there is any such thing as gender-neutral “single parenting”. And I don’t think that studying father-only households will tell you anything about single-mother households. The two are simply not comparable.

    • webmaster says:

      I agree, Irfan. Society today poses many challenges to our youth – both genders due to a lot of grey lines. I also agree re: male role models being few and far between. Our youth – both genders need to be seen. We need healthy mentors of both genders to step up and support them. Here’s hoping…….

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