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Alec Greven – How to Talk to Girls

Check out this wonderful YouTube video of 9 year old Alec Greven talking about how to talk to girls.  Our Fire & Bones program works with male you age 12 to 18.  Healthy male mentors support them on their journey to manhood. Please contact us

Welcome to the West Coast Men’s Support Society Blog!

Welcome to our new blog!  This blog will incorporate the input and insights of a number of men and women across British Columbia and beyond.  We hope to have at least two new blog postings per week that will stimulate topical discussions.  The discussions will

Fathers without Fathers – Aboriginal Men in Canada

Good Day, I was told about the below article earlier by a colleague, and wanted to post it for our readers.  I believe that it connects with the type of work we are doing here at The West Coast Men’s Support Society.  Our Dads Make

Can Men Have Post Partum Depression?

The West Coast Men’s Support Society is always curious around various issues that impact men.  One issue that came across my desk today was around men suffering from postpartum depression.  Here is a link to the article that initially sparked my interest.  The article confirms

Thank you Thank you Queen Alexandra Foundation!!

The West Coast Men’s Support Society is very pleased to announce that the Queen Alexandra Foundation has granted us funds for our Fire & Bones – Youth Mentoring on Vancouver Island!!  This program helps male youth in both middle and secondary schools through the use

The Happy Song

I love the Happy Song because it reinforces to me what West Coast Men’s Support Society stands for:  emotional & physical wellness!!

For me the song is about playing and enjoying life rather than being in a place of suffering and struggle.

I would like more and more people to pay more and more attention to the positive energy of the Happy Song rather than the negativity that typically flows from the media.

West Coast Men’s Support Society promotes a number of programs for men to take better care of themselves and therefore those around them.

Please listen & watch The Happy Song and enjoy it.  I hope that it takes you to a playful place of enjoyment.

Please contact us to learn more about our programs and how we want to support men and their families across BC.

Building Adult Capabilities to Improve Child Outcomes

Check out this absolutely awesome YouTube video from The Centre of the Developing Child at Harvard University!!

We at West Coast Men’s Support Society believe that it is often the simplest most basic concepts that lead to the most powerful outcomes.  For instance, when it comes to the raising of a child, both parents need to be involved in nurturing them – providing them with a safe and healthy environment to grow up in.  It’s that simple!  That parents recognize how important it is to provide the child with healthy food, water and warm clothing to protect them from the elements.  It’s that simple!  That by parents staying together, learning how to better communicate through programs like our Respect & Compassion workshop, it brings happiness and health into the home.  It’s that simple!

West Coast Men offers a number of programs to empower boys & men to take better care of themselves both emotionally and physically.

Please contact West Coast Men to learn more about how we are expanding across British Columbia through our Organizational Outreach program and through the help of our PR & Communications volunteers.  It takes a village!!

Jeremy Loveday – Masks Off – A Challenge to Men

Jeremy Loveday – Masks Off – A Challenge to Men

An awesome call to action for men to take responsibility around gender violence!

The West Coast Men’s Support Society’s mission is to help men, families and community to live fuller, healthier lives.  In order for this to happen, men need to step up and recognize that they are fallible.  That men do need help and that its OK to ask.  We say NO WAY to “Rape Culture”!  These words do not belong in the same sentence!  Rape has no place in society!

Let’s check out Jeremy Loveday’s call to action:

Your words and thoughts have physical power – Will Smith

Your words and thoughts have physical power – Will Smith

This is an absolutely perfect video for the West Coast Men’s Support Society because we are all about taking back your power – being empowered.  We are all about people taking care of themselves first so that they are then able to take care of those around them.  We are all about focusing on your potential rather than what’s not working.  We are all about taking responsibility for your life, your family and your community.  We believe in holding ourselves accountable – what we say we are going to do – we do.  We believe in living a life of integrity – standing up for what we believe in – taking action.  We believe in forgiveness.  We believe in the power of compassion to heal our world – all that needs to happen is the loss of control and power – that we are all equal no matter our socioeconomic status, our race, creed, colour, etc.  We are all perfectly imperfect human beings.

If you like these words and Will Smith’s video, then please contact us to learn more about how we can support you on your journey.  Thanks!

Responding to Domestic Violence vs. Preventing it

Responding to Domestic Violence vs. Preventing itResponding to Domestic Violence is not working.  It is costing our society millions upon millions of dollars and yet I am still observing the same types of policies being put forward by local government.  Here is a recent scenario that is happening in BC where the government is responding to a “potentially preventable” scenario IF the man received appropriate support.

The West Coast Men’s Support Society is all about prevention.  We offer programs to support men in living healthier lives in all ways; and by doing so, supporting their families, friends, and the community.

We believe that if we can provide boys and men with tools that would invite them down a different path than the “tough guy” approach, that so many of them have been taught, we would offer them a way out of violence and a way into compassion.

We believe in the path of the Mature Masculine/New Macho – a man who takes responsibility for his actions, is held accountable, and lives a life of integrity.

We would like to be able to work with government to develop new approaches to preventing domestic violence across the province through education of men vs. the blaming of men.

The West Coast Men’s Society knows that there is another way – a more cost effective and humane way to support men in BC and beyond.  We hope that doors will open and people in positions of power will pay attention.  Thanks for your time!  Please contact us for more information on our programs.

Spiritual and emotional maturity – the Sibling Society revisited

Spiritual and emotional maturity - he Sibling Society revisitedHow many of you are familiar with the concept of The Sibling Society?  I have hyper linked the term with a page about Robert Bly’s book.  The essence of Bly’s book is around our society being run by adolescent men – men who have literally not emotionally grown up.  These are men who have not taken the path of spiritual and emotional maturity; but rather one that focuses on the bottom line in spite of everything else.

As British Columbia (BC)’s West Coast Men’s Support Society (WCMSS)- a place for men to come for support around their emotional health, we strongly support men in getting in touch with their mature masculinity.  We are hopeful that men will become more aware of their emotional needs, losses, and where their emotional work lies.

We are also affiliated with British Columbia (BC)’s Mankind Project – an organization dedicated to changing the world  one man at a time.  The Mankind Project hopes to accomplish this by inviting men to gather together, and to witness one another going deeper and revealing their shadows – the part of ourselves that we hide, repress, and deny.  It is a part of ourselves that typically comes out sideways because we are not connected with it.  It quite often takes others to act as our mirror to bring up our shadowy parts.  We then project these dark aspects of ourselves onto these people/mirrors.  This is what we refer to as our “work” – our emotional work – we all have it.

The biggest challenge that we at The WCMSS find men have is simply ASKING FOR HELP.  We find that men will look at themselves as failures if they ASK FOR HELP; and yet, if they do not, then they will be perpetually lost in their emotional unavailable state, and will be disconnected from everyone around them in a REAL way.

Therefore, in order for men to truly become mature masculine beings, it is crucial that they step out of their comfort zone and ASK FOR HELP.  This will allow them to begin the journey along the path of spiritual and emotional maturity.

We invite you to contact the WCMSS for more information on our programs and resources.  Thank you for your time and interest.

Who needs men?

Who needs men?I just came across this article posted in Psych Central titled “The Rise of the Single Woman.”  The author states that women have risen above men in many ways: education, longevity, and connectivity.  There was an editorial written in the New York Times called “Men, Who Needs them?”  My first reaction to this is: When are we going to come to an equilibrium?  What is it going to take for women and men to be on the same page – to be in balance?

Our vision at The West Coast Men’s Support Society is “to support a community where men and women of all ages live with equality, equity and peaceful co-existence.”  Because it is our belief that this will lead to a much more emotionally healthy community.

The article goes on to state that career women have never been happier.  It talks about women raising children by themselves.  What about men?  The article continuously poses the question:  Who needs men?  I can confirm that children need men in their life.  I will correct that statement, children need healthy men in their life.

This, to me is the big challenge that the world is facing:  the media is constantly promoting unhealthy men.  Men who are abusing their positions of power.  Men who are speaking inappropriately about women.  Men who want to destroy the world vs. supporting it.  This is not the kind of man that we promote at West Coast Men’s Support Society.

I would invite readers of this blog to read The New Macho to gain an idea of the type of man that we want to emerge on our planet.  A man who lives a life of integrity, takes responsibility, and is accountable for their words and actions.  It is my hope that if this type of mature man arrives, then there will be no more need for the question: Who needs men.

I would invite you to contact us to learn more about our programs and the steps that we are taking in our community to support men in becoming The New Macho.  Thanks for your time.

Amazing Resources for Fathers! Thanks to Dr. Warren Farrell!

The West Coast Men’s Support Society wants to share these amazing resources for fathers!!  Dr. Warren Farrell is doing some amazing work in California and beyond!  Please contact us to learn about our programs.  Thanks for tuning in!

 

Other Resources for Child Custody and Shared Parenting; Mothers’ and Fathers’ Rights; Gender Issues; Careers
WHY MEN ARE THE WAY THEY ARE by WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.

THE MYTH OF MALE POWER by WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.

WOMEN CAN’T HEAR WHAT MEN DON’T SAY by WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.

WHY MEN EARN MORE by WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.

THE LIBERATED MAN by WARREN FARRELL, PH.D.

Warren Farrell’s Homepage

Warren Farrell on Wikipedia and Wikiquote

Proposal to create a White House Council on Boys to Men (chaired by Warren Farrell)

Most-Recommended Resources

American Coalition for Fathers and Children (see video) www.acfc.org

Best Interest of Children www.bestinterestofchildren.org

Better Dads www.betterdads.net

Fathers For Life www.fathersforlife.org

Glenn Sacks Radio www.GlennSacks.com

National Coalition of Free Men www.ncfm.org

Other Recommended Resources on Child Custody and Shared Parenting

Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights (ANCPR) www.ancpr.com

Children’s Rights Council (CRC) www.crckids.org

Dads America www.dadsamerica.org

Dad’s Rights www.dadsrights.com

FatherMag
www.fathermag.com

Fathers’ Rights Association of NY www.fathersrightsnys.com The Fathers’ Rights Association seeks, through equal parenting rights, to ensure that children maintain a continuing, nurturing relationship with both parents after divorce or separation.

Fathers Are Capable Too www.fact.on.ca

Gene C. Colman’s Family Law Centre www.4famlaw.com

Innocent Dads – Falsely accused Fathers and their Legal Issues www.InnocentDads.org To inform Dads who have been falsely accused by their ex-spouses, of what options they have, what works, what does not work, and the difficult struggle they are about to partake.

The Men’s Center www.themenscenter.com

Men’s Rights Agency (Australia)
http://www.mensrights.com.au/

National Fathers’ Resource Center (NFRC) www.fathers4kids.org

Proactive Change for Fathers
http://www.proactivechange.com/fathers/

SPARC, the Separated Parenting Access & Resource Center
http://www.deltabravo.net/

Texas Fathers for Equal Rights www.tferfw.org

Resources for Women:

Independent Women’s Forum www.iwf.org

League of Women Voters of California www.smartvoter.org League of Women Voters factsheet for Dr. Farrell’s 2003 California gubernatorial bid.

Recommended Web Sites on Gender Issues:

John Gray’s Mars and Venus www.marsvenus.com

Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting www.mediaradar.org

The National Organization for Men www.orgformen.org

In-Depth and Thoughtful Interviews :

Integral Naked www.in.integralinstitute.org (Ken Wilber interviews Warren Farrell)

Interview on People First Radio!

Interview on People First Radio!West Coast Men’s Support Society if very pleased to announce that we had a successful interview on People First Radio this past Thursday.

The interview was largely based around the new Men’s Centre that will be opening at Simon Fraser University, and the response that it has received to date from the community.

I discussed the need for society to work towards an equilibrium between the support and understanding of women’s and men’s emotions.

I discussed the need for an understanding of the sacred masculine and how important this is.

I wanted to clarify that the need for a safe place for men to go to to seek help in no way minimizes the need for women’s centres – places for women to go for support.  I am simply emphasizing that both genders require support – typically from their own gender in order to be safe and healthy.

I spoke about the different programs that the West Coast Men’s Society is offering to support men in BC.

I confirmed that we support men’s work across British Columbia – including: up and down Vancouver Island and the Okanagan.  We are working to build connections in the Lower Mainland, the Kootenays, and in the northern regions of BC.  We want to help men wherever they reside.

It is truly our hope that the new Men’s Centre at Simon Fraser will mark the beginning of a more balanced society – where both women’s and men’s emotional lives are being supported.

Please feel free to contact us for more information on our programs.

Thanks for your time!

Adam Beach Interview Speaks to importance of his First Nations Roots

Adam Beach Interview Speaks to importance of his First Nations RootsAs Executive Director of West Coast Men’s Support Society, I keep my eyes peeled for articles that speak to men’s issues/work.  The following article from Actor, Adam Beach speaks about his First Nations heritage and how it supports his career.

I think that it is important to bring your “life” with you as you travel your path, rather than school concepts.  This is an example of how it is important to connect generations – elders to youth – to keep the fire burning.

Chatelaine Article